Year: 2017

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A Footnote to ‘Garden of Education’

Every educational expert says children don’t learn from what you tell them to do but by observing what you yourself do. Fine. But why don’t they learn additionally from what they are told? Why won’t they improve at least somewhat? Educators won’t explain.

Allow me to insert my two cents:

When children see a parent saying one thing and doing another, e.g., angrily criticizing the child’s anger, they learn two distinct lessons, wholly unconnected in their little mind:

  1. Be angry yourself. Also:
  2. Warn your own future charges against anger…

Their minds are uncomplicated. Children don’t grasp the concept of (parental) hypocrisy or bare oral instruction. And as for the second part about words, there is no need to wait until they grow up. One can see children mimicking their parents by telling their dolls exactly what their parents tell them.

When the parent expresses confusion at the child’s failure to absorb the lesson, the child has no idea what the problem is. I am copying Mommy and Daddy’s behavior to the letter; what more could they want?!

This doesn’t mean parental perfection. Even if the parent is merely trying to improve his anger, praying for calm, etc., this, too, will be obvious to the little spying copycat.

re: Chassidic Wisdom

We wrote about the genius of simplicity in Judaism. Here is Rabbi Nachman in the same vein, Sichos Haran chapter 15:

אמר: שהוא חכמה ומלאכה גדולה להיות כמו בהמה. וזה בחינת (שמות לו א) “כל אשר נתן ה’ חכמה בהמה”, הינו שהוא חכמה לעשות עצמו כבהמה (וכמו שאמרו רבותינו, זכרונם לברכה (חולין ה:) על פסוק (תהלים לו ז): “אדם ובהמה תושיע ה'” – אלו בני אדם שערומים בדעת ומשימין עצמן כבהמה. וכמו שאמר אסף (תהלים עג כב): “ואני בער ולא אדע בהמות הייתי עמך”, ועיין במקום אחר מזה).