Q: Why Did Hashem Return Us, Undeserving As We Are? A: ‘Killing With Kindness’!

As Rabbi Brand explains the verses in Yechezkel:

וְזָכַרְתְּ אֶת דְּרָכַיִךְ וְנִכְלַמְתְּ, בְּקַחְתֵּךְ אֶת אֲחוֹתַיִךְ הַגְּדֹלוֹת מִמֵּךְ אֶל הַקְּטַנּוֹת מִמֵּךְ, וְנָתַתִּי אֶתְהֶן לָךְ לְבָנוֹת וְלֹא מִבְּרִיתֵךְ:

[פירש רש”י, וז”ל: וזכרת, בהיטיבי לך, את דרכיך הרעים, ונכלמת מלפני על שגמלת לי רעה ואני גומלך טובה. בקחתך את אחותך, כשתכבשי לירש את מקומות אשר סביבותיך א”י הקטנות והגדולות, לבנות, לפרוורים לך, משועבדים לך, ולא מבריתך, ולא משמרך את הברית אלא בחסדי וברחמי שאני שומר את בריתי. עכ”ל].

(סב) וַהֲקִימוֹתִי אֲנִי אֶת בְּרִיתִי אִתָּךְ וְיָדַעַתְּ כִּי אֲנִי ה’:

(סג) לְמַעַן תִּזְכְּרִי וָבֹשְׁתְּ וְלֹא יִהְיֶה לָּךְ עוֹד פִּתְחוֹן פֶּה מִפְּנֵי כְּלִמָּתֵךְ, בְּכַפְּרִי לָךְ לְכָל אֲשֶׁר עָשִׂית נְאֻם אֲ-דֹנָי א-לקים”.

There is a parable by the Ba’al Shem Tov in this vein explaining the seemingly disjointed phrase in Kol Mekadesh, Zemiros, “מְשֹׁךְ חַסְדְּךָ לְיֹדְעֶיךָ אֵל קַנֹּא וְנוֹקֵם”.

Is it “Kana’us” or is it Chessed?! Answer: Hashem treats us with undeserved compassion so we return to Him from love and gratitude.

By the way, see the rest of Rabbi Brand’s essay here on whether the religious have what to be proud of in relation to the seculars (or not…).

Unfunny On Many Levels

Ben Shapiro on Twitter:

Joke going around the NYC Jewish community: Why does the groom break a glass at the chuppah? To trick @billdeblasio [Ed., the mayor] into thinking that it’s only a riot and not, God forbid, a wedding.

The Anti-Semitism Handbook for Diaspora Jews

The Anti-Semitism Handbook for Diaspora Jews

Nov 1, 2019, The Jewish Press

The continuous rise of anti-Semitic incidents has taken world Jewry by surprise. The nations of the world were supposed to know better and Germany said they’re sorry. Yet try as they do to be loved, Jews continue to be hated more than any other population, regardless of what “type” of Jew they are. Wealthy Jews are hated for having too much money, poor Jews are hated for being dirty Jews. Powerful Jews are hated for controlling the world, weak Jews are hated for being pathetic. Religious Jews are hated for being different, assimilated Jews are hated for being impostors.

Surely this is just a passing phase as it’s always been, and Jews shouldn’t do anything radical, like returning to their motherland en masse. To help Diaspora Jews respond properly to anti-Semitic incidents of various types, the Jewish Union for Diaspora Eternal (JUDE) has prepared a handbook. This handbook is the product of extensive research, countless meetings, and millions of dollars in operating expenses. (Please donate generously so our vital work can continue.)

Each section of the handbook lists various levels of anti-Semitic behavior, followed by the appropriate responses. Thanks to our helpful guide, Diaspora Jewry need no longer be confused when faced with the challenges of anti-Semitism, nor overreact and risk making the situation worse. We’ve had a great run for thousands of years in the Diaspora, and with God’s help this will continue. We at JUDE are confident that the best is yet to come.

Stage 1 Anti-Semitism:

  • Dirty looks, insults, slurs, assorted other verbal abuse
  • Spitting, throwing pennies, assorted other non-physical signs of contempt
  • Accusing Israel of racism, war crimes, etc.

Appropriate Responses:

  • So what?
  • We’re in galus, it’s normal
  • It’s good to be reminded that we’re Jews
  • We have to fight hate with love
  • They don’t really mean it
  • It’s just kids being kids
  • It’s fair to criticize Israel
  • We have to work harder to educate people and reach out to our neighbors

Stage 2 Anti-Semitism:

  • Vandalism of Jewish homes, synagogues, and institutions
  • Swastikas
  • Desecration of cemeteries
  • Jews being knocked down, harassed, lightly assaulted in the street

Appropriate Responses:

  • The police will investigate
  • Increase patrols and install security cameras
  • Probably a prank by kids
  • The person was probably drunk or mentally ill
  • Create programs in schools about tolerance
  • This is an opportunity for the community to come together and show support

Stage 3 Anti-semitism:

  • Holocaust denial
  • Holocaust celebration, we will finish what Hitler started
  • Bias in the media
  • Anti-Semitic cartoons
  • Anti-Semitic statements from public officials
  • Legal discrimination to keep Jews out (zoning laws, etc.)
  • Attempts to ban shechita, circumcision, impose anti-Torah curriculum on yeshivas

Appropriate Responses:

  • Prove that the Holocaust really did happen
  • They don’t really mean what they are saying
  • Arrange educational events and visits to Holocaust museums
  • Write letters, use social media to inform and educate
  • Invite the offenders to meet with us and build bridges
  • It’s not like Germany in 1932, it’s completely different
  • Use our political influence, work with leaders
  • They don’t hate us, they just don’t understand

Stage 4 Anti-Semitism:

  • Attacks on synagogues and Jewish institutions
  • Serious beatings
  • Children being bullied in school, with no serious consequences
  • Fear of being recognizably Jewish
  • Occasional shootings and murders
  • Expectations of attacks on Jewish holidays, fear of assembling

Appropriate Responses:

  • It’s a lone wolf
  • Try to understand the attackers and their motives
  • Increase security
  • Train citizens in self-defense
  • Train citizens on how to survive shootings
  • Urge politicians to speak out
  • Express shock, every single time, and insist we won’t let it happen again
  • It only happens in some areas, isolated incidents, blown out of proportion

Stage 5 Anti-Semitism:

  • Pogroms
  • Legislation targeting the entire Jewish community
  • Confiscation of Jewish property
  • Show trials
  • Mass incarcerations
  • Destruction of synagogues and Jewish institutions

Appropriate Responses:

  • It will blow over
  • We will use our political influence and connections
  • Some Jews have left but we don’t recommend it, stay and strengthen the community
  • Don’t be a fool and abandon your property and your business
  • Don’t fight, keep a low profile

Stage 6 Anti-Semitism:

  • Legislation stripping Jews of basic human rights
  • Destruction of entire communities
  • Mass murders and other atrocities

Appropriate Responses:

  • Hide if you can
  • Flee if you can, use whatever you have left to bribe your way out
  • Return the moment it all stops and rebuild. This is our home.

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P.S.

November 1, 2019, when this was originally published, seems like ancient times.  Back then the Jews in America were moving from Stage 3 to Stage 4.  The days of the daily incidents in Brooklyn and occasional synagogue shootings seem like Gan Eden compared to now.  Today, six months later, we are seeing some of Stage 5 as American society completely unravels.

Entire Jewish communities are in danger, and they feel it.  They scramble to prepare and appease with hopes that large gatherings of angry people without moral boundaries will remain peaceful.  The riots and political reactions are not “something that happens every so often”.  They are a warning.  I don’t know how many more warnings are left.

Yes, life in Israel is not perfect, and yes, it is possible for a Jew in Israel to bleed and die also.  But for God’s sake people — and your own — stop deluding yourselves and come home now.  Don’t be among those we have to mourn for not getting out when they could, for missing all the signs, for fooling themselves that this time will be different, for staying behind because of trivial plans and concerns that will soon no longer matter.  What are you risking your property and very lives for?  For a little more time in a galus we no longer need and is no longer hospitable?

Now is not the time to split hairs and make Talmudic arguments for why you should fight to keep the galus life going just a little longer.  Now is the time to see the big picture, join your people in your land, and seize Jewish destiny.

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לעולם תהא דעתו מעורבת עם הבריות’? בד”א, בשעושים מעשי אדם, ולא מעשי בהמה’

מסילת ישרים פרק ה’:

והמפסיד השלישי הוא החברה, דהיינו, חברת הטפשים והחוטאים, והוא מה שהכתוב אומר ‘ורועה כסילים ירוע’. כי הנה אנחנו רואים פעמים רבות אפילו אחר שנתאמת אצל האדם חובת העבודה והזהירות בה, יתרפה ממנה או יעבור על איזה דברים ממנה כדי שלא ילעגו עליו חבריו או כדי להתערב עמהם, והוא מה ששלמה מזהיר ואומר ‘ועם שונים אל תתערב’. כי אם יאמר לך אדם, לעולם תהא דעתו של אדם מעורבת עם הבריות, אף אתה אמור לו, במה דברים אמורים, בבני אדם שעושים מעשי אדם, אך לא בבני אדם שעושים מעשי בהמה. ושלמה מזהיר ‘לך מנגד לאיש כסיל’. ודוד המלך אמר ‘אשרי האיש אשר לא הלך וגו’, וכבר פירשו, זכרונם לברכה אם הלך, סופו לעמוד. ואם עמד, סופו לישב. ואומר ‘לא – ישבתי עם – מתי – שוא וגו’ שנאתי קהל מרעים וגו’. אין לו לאדם אלא להטהר ולנקות עצמו, ולמנוע רגליו מדרכי ההמון השקועים בהבלי הזמן, וישיב רגליו אל חצרות ה’ ואל משכנותיו. הוא שדוד עצמו מסיים ואומר ‘ארחץ בנקיון כפי ואסובבה את מזבחך ה’. ואם יארע לו שימצא בחברת מי שילעג עליו, לא ישית לבו אל הלעג ההוא, אדרבא, ילעג על מלעיגיו ויבזם, ויחשוב בדעתו כי לולי היה לו להרויח ממון הרבה, ההיה מניח מה שהיה צריך לזה מפני חבריו שלא ילעגו! כל – שכן שלא ירצה לאבד נשמתו מפני לעג. ועל דרך זה הזהירו ז”ל הוי עז כנמר וכו’ לעשות רצון אביך שבשמים, ודוד אמר ‘ואדברה בעדותיך נגד מלכים ולא אבוש’, וישעיה כמו כן אמר ‘על – כן שמתי פני כחלמיש ואדע כי – לא אבוש’.