Rabbi Miller to Women: At Home Dress Up; on the Street Just Be Plain.

Rav Avigdor Miller on Sheitels: The Good and the Bad

Q:
Can a woman wear a custom made sheitel?

A:
Let me explain something about this subject of sheitelech. I don’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings; I want to make everybody happy and wearing a sheitel is certainly a good thing. But you should know that some sheitelim look too natural.

And therefore long-haired sheitelim I think should be avoided. I won’t tell you exactly what to do, but you must know there is a responsibility on women to be able to come before the bais din shel maaleh when the time is up and she should be able to say, “I wasn’t the cause of anybody who was looking at me too much.”

A woman should never be in a position where she is liable to be blamed for causing men to look at her. It’s not her fault that she is a woman, but she has to be careful not to misuse that privilege. Her husband is the one who has to look at her; others should not look.

And therefore if you are too careful with your appearance, it’s looking for trouble. I don’t say you shouldn’t look good, but to make it your business to look attractive that’s not right.

At home many people are slovenly, they’re sloppy. The husband sees a sloppy wife at home but on the street she dresses to kill! It should be the opposite. At home you should dress up and make the best impression on your husband; on the street just be plain.

TAPE # E-152 (September 1998)

From Toras Avigdor, here.

R’ Yehoshua Yankelewitz: ‘Yerushalayim Is Not Just Real Estate!’

Waking Up to the Geulah

Yehoshua Yankelewitz, Bayit Vegan, Yerushalayim

As a bochur in shidduchim in the U.S., I was very clear that as far as I’m concerned, living in Eretz Yisroel is the only option. This conclusion of mine was after researching the issue thoroughly. I had been learning previously for a few years in Eretz Yisroel by R’ Dovid Soloveitchik zt”l, and had the zechus of learning with R’ Eliyahu Zilberman shlita as well. He advised me not to give “hashkafadrashos while in shidduchim, rather simply state that I know that being in Eretz Yisroel was highly valued by gedolei Yisroel throughout the generations, and even if I don’t exactly understand why it was important to them, it is probably important for me too.

Time went on and it may have seemed that shidduchim did not pull through due to this stance of mine on Eretz Yisroel. It was actually assumed that as time went on with no shidduch materializing, my stance must have softened. In truth, my resolve had actually gotten stronger over time.

One of the main points of contention was “concern” with my parnassah. How could I insist on living in Eretz Yisroel if I didn’t know how I would make a parnassah there? My reply was that last I checked, it was the Ribbono Shel Olam who provided parnassah, and I was sure He could provide in Eretz Yisroel too. In an interesting twist, I make part of my parnassah here in Eretz Yisroel in a way I could never do abroad—I’m a tour guide in and around the Old City of Yerushalayim. This is something I can do during Bein Hazmanim and bein hasdorim, and it allows me to devote much of my time to learning. Even when social distancing was mandated, I was able to work by giving virtual tours. In addition, I also am involved in the publishing of manuscripts of Rishonim and Achronim, as well as in the collection and research of various sifrei Torah.

There is much to see in the Old City of Yerushalayim—spanning the entire history of the Jewish people up until today—from the place where the Beis HaMikdash once stood (and will soon B”H stand once again and for eternity) to the places where the sounds of Torah and tefillah can be heard once again. There is so much to learn and so much we can connect to, from our magnificent past through our miraculous rebirth in HaShem’s Land, and up until our strong present presence and promising promised future.

After two thousand years in golus, I feel that we are in an amazing period in Jewish history. I would even say I feel a sense of closure as some aspects of the golus of Am Yisroel are gradually coming to an end.

My first Tisha B’Av in Eretz Yisroel was the day after I first landed here. I distinctly remember waking up and hearing the cooing of the doves in Eretz Yisroel’s clear blue sky, and thinking to myself, “Wow, I am really here, in Eretz Yisroel!” I just couldn’t believe the reality that I was here. It was simply unreal. I mean, just the day before I was in the USA, where the regular normal guys are…. Here in Eretz Yisroel, hearing everyone around me saying kinos just felt a bit strange to me. This was in Arzei HaBira in Yerushalayim, a typical Yerushalmi neighborhood; it wasn’t even a place of specific historic significance such as the Kosel. This emotion was triggered just by being in Eretz Yisroel, breathing its air and walking its streets, and being next to so many Yidden who have come back home. Though I could not determine exactly why, it was an overpowering emotion.

This was the feeling I had after just one night in Eretz Yisroel. It is interesting to note the words of Rav Avraham Azulai ztz”l (a forebearer of the Chida ztz”l): “When one is zoche to enter Eretz Yisroel, a new nefesh from Yetzirah comes to him, and envelopes his old nefesh. On the first night that he sleeps in Eretz Yisroel, both nefashos leave him and go up, and only the new one returns to him.” (Chesed L’Avraham, Ma’ayan 3, Nahar 12).

One Chol HaMoed, when I was still keeping two days of Yom Tov, I was a guest in the sukkah of R’ Eliyahu Zilberman. A discussion had come up earlier about committing to live in Eretz Yisroel and keeping one or two days of Yom Tov. The rav said with much passion that when someone commits to living in Eretz Yisroel he is at once terminating for himself at least some aspects of two thousand years of golus, in a very literal sense, and the time to make such a commitment is right now… The tremendous significance of this reality was not lost on me. With just one firm decision I would make—in a certain sense— two thousand years come to an end!

Of course, significant as it is, coming to live in Eretz Yisroel is only one part of this journey. As a nation, we still have a way to go, up until the ultimate “v’haya HaShem lemelech al kol ha’aretz,” speedily in our days. However, being back as His children in His Land, living according to His rules and performing as many of His mitzvos as we can and yearning for more, we are actually headed in the direction of having that become a reality.

Living in an Esrog

While in the U.S. for a chasuna, my wife met for the first time, some of my nieces living in the U.S. They could not believe that we managed to live in such a small apartment in Yerushalayim, and one of them started boasting about their much larger living quarters in America. My wife told her that she did not have anything to boast about since we could buy three American-sized houses for the price of our little piece of Yerushalayim. I later reasoned this with the following mashal, succinctly differentiating for a friend between those two pieces of real-estate: “How many lemons can you buy for the price of one Esrog?!”

Yerushalayim is not just real-estate…

Reprinted with permission from Avira D’Eretz Yisroel.

A Powerful Chinese Tradition ‘All Benefits Emanate From the Emperor’s Court’

“The Coming of the Book – The Impact of Printing 1450-1800” by Lucien Febvre and Henri-Jean Martin, translated by David Gerard and published by Verso p. 72:

A powerful Chinese tradition maintained that all benefits emanate from the Emperor’s Court and so the invention of paper was ascribed to the Director of the Imperial Workshops, the eunuch Tsai Lun (died 121 A.D.) but it appears certain that paper was used for writing long before Tsai Lun. It was he who reported on the subject to the Emperor (105 A.D.) and this report has survived, so his name is remembered while the efforts of many anonymous craftsmen have been forgotten.

Followed by p. 74:

Originally a craft confined to the upper and lower reaches of the Yellow River, block-printing was eventually adopted by the scholars to preserve and disseminate the canonical writings. As such it was recommended officially by a government minister, Feng Tao, in a report to the Emperor. Like Tsai Lun’s, this report has survived. These two men are still credited with the honour of inventions which they did no more than bring to the notice of the Court.

As Koheles said…

לחקות תנועות רבו בלי טעם הוי כמו פסל, אפילו אם אינו עבירה בעצם

הרב צבי הירש מזידיטשוב באמצע פרק ד’ מספר “סור מרע ועשה טוב”:

עוד בענין נשאת ונתת באמונה, שלא תהיה אחי פתי יאמין לכל דבר אפילו לרב מובהק ומפורסם אפילו יהיה דומה הרב למלאך י״י צב־אות לא תאמין לשום עובדא ומעשה לנהוג אחריו שום דקדוק מעשה, עד שתדקדק בעצמך בכל תנועה אשר ראית לרבך, ותהיה נושא ונותן בדבר מאיזה טעם ושורש מה אשר עשה הרב תנועתו ומעשה זו (ואל תשיבינו מן מאמרם ז״ל אין לך אלא דיין שבימיך [ר׳׳ה כה:], זה נאמר על דבר הספק בשיקול הדעת והסברא, אבל לא נגד הלכה ברורה מפורש בתלמוד ופוסקים), הגם שהתנועה ועבודת רבך הוטב בעיניך ויש לך הנאה הימנה, כי מחמת אהבת רבך יש לתנועה חן בעיניך, גם על זה אמר בספר נועם אלימלך [פרשת קדושים עה”כ אל תפנו] שהדבר כמין פסל ח״ו, רצה לומר לעשות תנועה דוגמת תנועת רבך, וזה מפורסם לחסידים ואנשי מעשה, אבל אם אתה נושא ונותן והתנועה יש לה טעם מן התורה וכונה הרצויה על פי התורה, אזי תשכיל ואז תעשה כמו שכתוב למען תשכילון את כל אשר תעשון [דברים כט ח].

ובפרט אם ראית אשר הרב עושה לעצמו איזה דבר שלא כדרך התורה, כגון אם מאחר זמן התפלה ומשנה הזמן שקבעו החכמים לכל דבר שבעולם לכל המעשה, אפילו זמן סעודת תלמידי חכמים, הגם שהרב הוא צדיק ומפורסם, לא תעבור אתה על דברי תורה ודברי חכמים ח״ו, אפילו על תנועה אחת, והרב הצדיק שעושה באפשר הוא בהוראת שעה, ואפשר לפי מזג גופו וכחו הוא עושה על פי משקל בריאותו, וצריך אתה לדונו לכף זכות וחלילה ח״ו להרהר אחריו, אבל אתה לא תעשה כמעשהו נגד התורה עד שתשא ותתן עמו על מה ולמה הוא עושה כן, וכאשר יורה לך טעם על פי התורה ויסביר לך הדבר ויכנסו דבריו באזניך אחר שתחקור בענין, אז תאמין, וזולת זה לא תאמין, אפילו יאמר לך שקבל מאליהו אל תאמין לו ולא תשמע לו, וכבר אמרו אם יבא אליהו ויאמר חולצין וכו׳ אין שומעין לו [יבמות קב.], ואפילו נגד תקנת חכמים בלבד לא תשמע לו, תהלה לא־ל יתברך שמו בעלי גילוי אליהו האמתיים כמו בעלי הזהר והרמב״ן וחביריו והאר״י ז״ל והבעש״ט לא אמרו לנו דבר אחד נגד דברי הגמרא בתלמוד אפילו כל שהוא, לכן אחי הזהר בזה, וזה הוא תכלית נושא ונותן באמונה, ובזה שלום לך.

וזהו מבוא גדול לחכמה זו, שתשקול כל דבר בפלם ומאזנים שלא יהיה דבר נגד הגמרא והפוסקים, אם תמצא דבר בזהר בוודאי לא יאמר הזהר שום דבר שהוא נגד הש״ס ח״ו (וכמבואר בספר מצרף לחכמה למוהר״י קנדיא), וכשיש מחלוקת בין הפוסקים אזי תמצא לפעמים בזהר שמכריע על פי אליהו ז״ל, ויש לנו לילך אחריו, ואותו המסרב נגד הזהר עתיד ליתן את הדין, ואז אם תעשה כן ותלך באמונתך בחכמה זו ותמצא דברי חכמה על יסודי התלמוד והלכה בנויים, תלך לבטח ולא תתטפש ח״ו, אבל תמצא חן ושכל טוב בעיני א־להים ואדם.

ומדברים אלו קל וחומר שלא תאמין לרב אשר אינו מוסמך מרב מובהק רב מרב עד רב שקבל מאליהו ומוסמך מחכמי הדור רובם ככלם צדיקים גדולי הדור לו תאמין, וזולתו הגם אשר יאמר לך הרב נביאות ורוח הקודש לא תאמין, כי מי יודע איזה רוח הוא, כמו שנביא לזה להבא מן שער הקדושה למהרח״ו ז״ל, ויש לזה ראיות רבות מן דרכי התורה, ומורי ז״ל אמר, המאמין לכל אדם אף שאינו מוסמך, אינו מאמין כלל וקרוב לעבודה זרה ממש ח״ו, ונאמר [דברים יז יא] על פי התורה אשר יורוך (ועל המשפט וכו׳ הגם שאין לך אלא שופט שבימיך, צריך לברר לך על פי התורה) דייקא. ועיין ברמב״ם סוף הלכות מלכים סימני מלך המשיח.