עוני ללא ‘תרבות עוני’ – החרדים בישראל

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רקע

בדרך כלל נמצאת התאמה בין המצב הסוציו-אקונומי של חברה מסוימת לבין תוחלת החיים באותה חברה, התאמה הידועה כבר שנים רבות ונבדקה במקומות רבים בעולם. התאמה זו נכונה הן בהשוואה בין מדינות שונות, והן בהשוואה בין ערים שונות. חוקרים הצביעו על כמה קשרים אפשריים בין התופעות, בין היתר: נגישות פחותה לשירותי בריאות, חוסר במשאבים המפריע לשמירה על בריאות תקינה, מתח, מגורים בשכונות צפופות, היגיינה ועוד.

תוחלת החיים בציבור החרדי

מחקרים שנערכו בישראל ובארצות הברית מצאו שתוחלת החיים בריכוזים חרדיים גבוהה יותר. רובע ברוקלין בניו יורק, שבו ריכוז גדול של יהודים חרדים ובו כשליש מהאוכלוסייה מצוי בעוני, נחשב לאחד מהמחוזות מאריכי החיים בארצות הברית, וריכוז האנשים שעברו את גיל מאה בברוקלין הוא מהגבוהים בעולם. חוקרים נטו לייחס תופעה זו למטען הגנטי השונה של היהודים, אך ממצאים דומים נמצאו גם בהשוואה בין תושבים יהודים בישראל. בסקר החברתי של הלשכה המרכזית לסטטיסטיקה מ-2012, דיווחו 73.6% מהחרדים שבריאותם כ”טובה מאוד”, לעומת כ-50% בקבוצות אוכלוסייה אחרות. ורק 18.7% אחוז מהחרדים דיווחו כי הם סובלים מבעיה בריאותית כלשהי, לעומת שיעור כפול ויותר בקבוצות אחרות. האוכלוסייה החרדית צעירה יחסית, אולם גם לאחר ביצוע התאמות לפי גיל, נותרו פערים משמעותיים: 64.6% מהחרדים הגדירו את בריאותם כ”טובה מאוד”, לעומת 55%–51 בקרב קבוצות אחרות בחברה היהודית.

במחקר השוואתי שערכו דב צ’רניחובסקי וחן שרוני, השוו השניים את תוחלת החיים בערים בישראל הכוללות מעל 50,000 תושבים. בעוד שבכל הערים נמצא קשר ישיר בין המצב הסוציו-אקונומי לתוחלת החיים, שלוש ערים חרגו בהרבה מהמגמה – ונרשמה בהן תוחלת חיים ארוכה בצורה משמעותית מערים בעלות מצב סוציו-אקונומי דומה. שלוש הערים הן ערים בעלות ריכוז גבוה של אוכלוסייה חרדית: בני ברק (95%), בית שמש (46%) וירושלים (31%). הפרדוקס מתרחש על אף שהאוכלוסייה החרדית מודעת פחות מזו החילונית לרפואה מונעתתזונה בריאה ופעילות גופנית – שהן אבני הדרך בהמלצות לאריכות ימים. מובהקות סטטיסטית לאריכות ימים אצל חרדים בישראל נמצאה גם בדו”ח של המוסד לביטוח לאומי משנת 2017. אך צויין בהסתייגות כי המודל לפיו הם מודדים מי הוא חרדי עלול להיות בעייתי בגילאים מתקדמים.

מחקר זה מצטרף למחקרים קודמים המראים כי אנשים מאמינים מאריכים ימים יותר מאנשים לא מאמינים.

הסברים לתופעה

צ’רניחובסקי ושרוני הציעו להבין את התופעה בתוצאה של ה”הון החברתי” של החברה החרדית. לדבריהם, החברה החרדית בנויה על מעגלי תמיכה חברתיים המקהים את תחושת העוני, ומסייעים לפרט שנקלע למשבר. להון החברתי של הקהילה החרדית השלכות נוספות שעשויות להשפיע על תוחלת החיים, כגון: דיווח נמוך על תחושת בדידות, ושביעות רצון מהקשר עם המשפחה. בנוסף לכך למבוגר החרדי הממוצע יש תחושת משמעות רבה יותר לחייו בהיותו עוסק בפעילויות המשמרות את פעילותו הקוגניטיבית והחברתית כגון לימוד תורה ותפילה במניין. מעבר לכך, ישנו היחס המכבד של היהדות לאדם המבוגר במצוות “מפני שיבה תקום והדרת פני זקן”.

חוקרים אחרים קושרים נתונים אלה גם לעובדה שהחרדים מועסקים בשיעור נמוך יותר מכלל האוכלוסייה במקצועות צווארון כחול כגון בינוי וחקלאות, ובכך נחשפים פחות לתחלואה מקצועית. גורם נוסף לדבריהם שעשוי להשפיע על תוחלת החיים הגבוהה במגזר היא היחשפות נמוכה יותר לגורמי סיכון אחרים, כגון שירות צבאי, עישון סיגריות וצריכת סמים ואלכוהול.

הסוציולוגית חיה שטייר הסבירה את הפער באי-הדיוק של הגדרת עוני בהסתמך על מדדים כלכליים בלבד. לטענתה, למרות היות החברה החרדית ענייה על פי מבחנים כלכליים, היא איננה “תרבות עוני” מבחינות סוציולוגיות. להפך, התרבות החרדית מעודדת במידה רבה את העוני הכלכלי, וממילא תוחלת החיים שלה מתאימה לחברת רווחה. טענה דומה מופיעה גם במחקר שערכה ניצה (קלינר) קסיר. משכך אין זה מפתיע שלא נמצאה התאמה בין המצב הסוציו-אקונמי של בני ברק ותוחלת החיים של תושביה.

המשך לקרוא…

מאתר ויקיפדיה, כאן.

SHORT PROVERB: If the Shoe Fits…

A Man and His Dogs

Once upon a time, there was a man who owned vicious and aggressive dogs. But, he was a strict, sometimes cruel master, and the dogs soon learned to control their aggression and to behave. While they chafed under the man’s cruelty, the man also cared for the dogs with love. Their bellies were full, and they wanted for nothing.

One day, a stranger came by. Because the dogs were under the man’s control, the dogs appeared docile and tame. They licked the stranger’s hand and offered their belly for the stranger to pet and rub. Then the stranger noticed the strict way in which the man controlled the dogs. He protested, but the man said he did not understand the nature of the dogs, and the stranger should mind his own business. The stranger became more and more agitated.

Unable to bear it any longer, one night the stranger, released the dogs, helping them to escape. The dogs, now free, first attacked their former master, killing him. The stranger looked on, confidant that, though it was a tragedy, the man had gotten what he deserved, for had he only been kinder to the dogs, then they would have appreciated all he had done for them.

The stranger was sad but resigned. But as he died, the man looked at the stranger and smiled, as if he held a secret that the stranger couldn’t comprehend.  This disconcerted the stranger, but he tried to put it out of his mind.

The stranger continued to come to the man’s home and visit the dogs, with which he had developed such a fondness for. He assumed they loved him, especially now that the stranger had helped to liberate them from the cruel master.

Then one day, the dogs, unrestrained by their former master saw something in the stranger, something they despised.  When the stranger came closer, full of love and charity, the dogs attacked him.

The stranger protested, how could they do such a thing? But the dogs didn’t listen. The stranger tried to explain how it was he that had freed them – they owed him, but this only angered the dogs more. They soon tore him to shreds. Before he died, the stranger remembered the man, and his smile, and cried a bitter cry.

From Jewish Nation עם היהודי, here.

SUCKERPUNCHED! (by Rabbi Chaim Zev Malinowitz zatzal)

SUCKERPUNCHED!*

BS”D 

9/12/2012

How the Chareidi Community Walked Right into the Trap Set For It, and How Well-Meaning People Enabled That to Happen

 Or

How In Two Short Weeks We Went From A Few Kooks**   to “The Torah Disrespects Women –It Is Wrong To Have Separate Gym Hours”  to   ‘How Come  There Aren’t Women Models In The Windows Of the New Kenyon Ramot ‘   to  an  MK Pulling His Bill To Have Chillul  Shabbos – Free Electricity

 

* 1)  A suckerpunch primarily involves a closed fist contacting the soft underbelly of a person (beneath the rib cage) at a high velocity, causing the ensuing force to press upward on the victim’s diaphragm, leading to a sudden expulsion of air from the victim’s mouth and lungs. This opening blow leaves the victim open to various other attacks because of the defenseless nature of the victim.

2) A punch that takes someone by surprise, a punch coming from out of the blue.

3) When someone punches you and you didn’t even know you were fighting.

(Urban Dictionary)

 

**A person regarded as strange, eccentric, foolish, or insane.

(dictionary.com)

 

NOTE:

 

This essay was written for members of BTYA. Its purpose is not to convince anyone that what I am writing is correct, nor is it meant to change anyone’s mind. In fact, Chazal warn us

כשם שמצוה לאמר דבר הנשמע, כך מצוה שלא לאמר דבר שאינו נשמע (יבמות סה ע”ב)

and there is no greater dovor she’aino nishma than an opinion in the present raging controversy which differs from yours. Certainly, it is a dovor she’aino nishma to those who are not truth-seekers, whose purpose is to sow controversy and fan the flames and make sure that Israeli society is anything but united*

 

*See Caroline Glick’s ‘Is Israeli Society Unraveling?’ in the Jerusalem Post, posted Jan. 2,2012, and Moshe Feiglin’s  על מה  נריב בשבוע הבא in Maariv online posted  6 Teves,5772(go to mflikud.co.il and search for it)

 

This essay is merely my answer to members of my shul who have asked me my opinion. This is the answer. This is my opinion. That is all it purports to be, nothing more. My opinion, written for the members of BTYA who have asked me for it.

 

I – The Methodology

II – Clarifying Points

III – Antidote

IV – Answers To ‘But………

 

I – The Methodology

When the media in Medinas Yisrael and its cohorts have a target, whether the target is targeted due to ideological reasons (left vs. right…. peaceniks vs. settlers) or for religious ones (secular vs. dati…. dati vs. chareidi), even if it is not necessarily an enemy per se, just some group that the media and its cohorts have decided to ‘go after’, maybe it’s a slow news season, maybe there is an election in two years and the present ruling party is decidedly Chareidi, the modus operandi in attacking that entity takes on a well – defined behavioral pattern:

 

  1. A) Wait until some extraordinarily stupid, illegal, unethical, inappropriate, or crass behavior occurs on the part of someone perceived as being a member or members of the group which has been targeted. (e.g. An Arab’s olive tree is reportedly cut down by a settler.)

 

  1. B) Breathlessly report it as the top story of the day, day after day, for about a week, all out of proportion to what else is going on in the world (and without checking too carefully on the veracity of the story, and nary a word concerning the surrounding circumstances which brought it about* ).

 

*E.g.  A woman well-known in leftist secular circles gets on a bus designated for ultra-chareidim [who desire to travel with hafrada between the sexes], one which travels from chareidi neighborhood to chareidi neighborhood, one set up at the behest of Egged which wants the ultra-chareidi business and does not want that the ultra-Chareidim set up their own private bus lines; this woman had to disregard the regular bus lines which were available to her and closer to her home in order to get onto the Mehadrin bus – leading one to suspect that perhaps there was more than a little bit of intentional provocation on that bus).

 

  1. C) State again and again and again that this extraordinarily stupid, illegal, unethical, inappropriate or crass behavior is symptomatic of ALL members of the targeted group.

 

  1. D) Explain, oh so earnestly, as a given, proven, sociological fact that even those members who might not actually partake in the extraordinarily stupid, illegal, unethical, inappropriate, or crass behavior, are nevertheless responsible for it since they share the same essential values of the perpetrators (suckerpunch!).

 

  1. E) Then demand that anyone who is perceived by the media and its cohorts and perhaps the unknowing public at large as belonging to the targeted group [which has now been identified as essentially the same group as the perpetrators], publicly and loudly condemn what that person or persons have done. But that only has value to the media and its cohorts if the condemnation is done as members of the targeted group (which was indeed what was demanded in RBS) — there is no interest to have it be condemned by a plain ordinary human being or a plain ordinary Jew, because then the steps following would not be put into play. And besides, once that would be allowed, the condemning becomes superfluous and moot, since no one in their right minds—and I do mean no one, including, for example, Eidah HaChareidis — condones the behavior cited.

The victim now seems defenseless (see front cover about the suckerpunch): if he does not follow along,”  ‘Gotcha! ’, you agree with what they are doing!! “And if he publicly and loudly does condemn them as a member of the targeted group, he helps perpetrate the fiction that he and those like him are part of that group (the perpetrators), since whoever is NOT part of that group of malefactors is not asked to condemn them (and for obvious reasons — why should anyone not associated with the group have to condemn the deranged behavior of a few kooks? *) — thus, suckerpunched!!!

 

  1. F) Now sit back and wait for ‘spokesmen’ of the targeted group to imply that indeed it is correct to categorize them as such (or else they would simply say– this is not at all relevant to me, why are you coming to me, I feel about this the same way YOU do, why aren’t YOU signing petitions and condemning them? *)

 

         *) And if at any point in time this does happen, which it is bound to, it will already be weeks and months after the original demands which were specifically made on the targeted group, weeks and months after all sorts of implications have been drawn [as will be shown, and as have already occurred], and so  it is clearly simply a case of trying to tidy up after the damage has already been done — locking the barn door after the horse is gone, or in this case, after you’ve stolen the horse.

 

And the ‘spokesmen’ say: Well, you see, there are “good” members of the targeted group, and “bad” members (e.g. good chareidim and bad chareidim; to the Arabs we might say–good Jews (Tel Avivians) and bad Jews (settlers); for the British at the time of the Mandate we say—there are good educated sophisticated Jews (from Western Europe) and uncouth disheveled simple-minded ones (from Eastern Europe)…

And the actions were perpetrated by the “bad” members, but we, the ‘spokesmen’, represent the “good” members.

This foolishly accepts the idea that the aberrant behavior somehow stems from the core values of the entire group—suckerpunched!

 

  1. G) Now, (see front cover: having expelled air from the mouth, the suckerpunched is now open to all sorts of other attacks) the media and their cohorts accuse the “good” members of some other behavior which they, the “good” members, do (What allows this lateral association to what was heretofore perfectly acceptable behavior is the unwitting acceptance of the narrative that this “group”, with these “shared values”, is suspect of extreme, deviant behavior, beyond societal norms, and if it isn’t this act which is maybe ‘over-the-line’, nevertheless, now anything the group does which deviates from the majority’s behavior, is suspect of being illegal, immoral, or unethical. To wit — well, maybe you don’t spit at little girls, but why do you insist on Mehadrin buses? And why don’t you go to the army? And why do your high school kids not study secular studies? And what is this Kollel thing all about? Why can’t you listen to a woman sing? HOW DARE YOU?!!??!!? Suckerpunched!!

 

THIS IS PRECISELY WHAT HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR THE LAST FEW WEEKS ALL OVER MEDINAS ISRAEL.

And from there, of course, we move on to open season, usually in blogs:

“Why do you (the Chareidim) beat your children? Why do you not care about sexual abuse of children? Why do you maltreat women, terrorize children, and embezzle tzedaka money, live parasitic lives, and price-gouge through unnecessary hechsherim?? Have you stopped beating your wife yet? Have you stopped beating your husband yet?” A line is drawn connecting the original stupid, illegal, unethical, etc. behavior to beating children, and all sorts of abuse, and then to all sorts of weird, deviant behavior.

 

  1. H) Then, “spokesmen” for the victimized group fall all over themselves to give interviews, write their own blogs, fulminate and pontificate how they can prove –chapter and verse, amud and blatt — what wonderful people we really are, and how we are really morally upright citizens, how we really really do respect women, and we even take baths also, etc. etc. This unwittingly digs the no-win hole they have stepped into deeper and deeper —— to wit, that the targeted group is cut off from larger society, a mutation, abnormal, and thus everything they do should be newly examined for underlying deviant behavior, and they bear the burden of proof that they are normal people. Which is precisely what is happening out there.

 

SUCKERPUNCHED!

 

And as surely as Lucy will jerk away that football and Charlie Brown will once again summersault backwards and fall on his back staring at the sky and wondering what happened ,  the more we “explain”, the worse it gets. As the father of a good friend of mine liked to describe, in explanation of this kind of behavior,  “I can’t understand it.  I cut this rope twice and it’s still too short!!

 

II—Clarifying Points (in no particular order)

 

  • I called the protestors at the Orot school kooks. I do not mean to say they are unaware of what they are doing and should therefore be “understood”. Far from it. If the word ‘thugs’ works for you, ok — thugs. (I happen to suspect that the ones protesting there are hired people, who do this for a living. The real thugs are too cowardly to come out, and are anyway busy smashing windows overnight at Manny’s.)
  • ‘These fellows we see are the same fellows who meet with Ahmadinejad in Iran about Holocaust Denial and What to do about the State of Israel. I do not recall anyone asking me to condemn their meetings. Hmmmm’.
  • Let us say that instead of spitting at the girl the fellow would have violated her. And I would have been asked to condemn his actions. Obviously, I would have refused and thrown the person making the request out of my house. Well, when asked to condemn the kooks, the thugs, I did the equivalent—I said “Sorry, I am not playing the game.” And if I would have publicly condemned them, as I was asked to do, davka as a chareidi Rabbi, I would have fallen into the trap I just described, and would have been guilty of abetting all I’ve just
  • Do I have the essential values of the kooks and share their goals? Well, I am not sure what their values are, but to say that I share their goals is not an embarrassment. To say I share the goal of the Republican Party to elect a Republican President does not at all mean that I tacitly approve the tactic of stealing from the other party’s coffers. To say I share the goals of a greater Eretz Yisrael does not mean I tacitly approve of Rabin’s assassination. To say I share the goal of learning in Kollel does not mean I tacitly approve the tactic of being fiscally irresponsible towards my family. Those who suggest otherwise, and they are out there (I read a lot), are guilty of sloppy thinking at best, and disingenuous slandering at worst.
  • According to sociological studies, most people LIKE to live in homogeneous communities. True, some people (such as myself) like to live in heterogeneous ones. But maybe if I lived in Ramat Beit Shemesh Bet, and were an ultra-Chareidi, I would have a goal that it be homogeneous. That is my democratic right, and is an appropriate goal, until having such a goal becomes unlawful. That does not mean I tacitly approve of unlawful tactics being used. And so there is nothing wrong at all to have that goal.
  • Poor 8-year-old Naama Margolese. If my child was spat at, I would wipe the spittle off, gently, wipe away her tears, give her a piece of her favorite chocolate, tell her there are bad men in the world, and in 10 minutes it is over. Waiting three months (What’s that again? The huge outcry was orchestrated three months after it happened? Huh?) to create an overreaction, and having a huge escort to accompany the child to school, and having all sorts of people tracking through her house to visit her as if they’re coming for neechum aveilim, all three months later —- if this poor kid is traumatized, I’ll tell you why!
  • I really feel for the (frum) bloggers and columnists and weekly newsmagazines, and am dahn most of them (not all) l’kaf zechus — they MUST write what everyone is writing about, they MUST fill up a paper, a column, a blog — and so, they more easily fall into the trap and thus facilitate all I’ve described. You can’t fill up an entire column, certainly not an article with “I have nothing to say, but I do wonder why you are even asking me for a comment. Do you also ask all Jews to condemn Bernard Madoff? How anti-semitic! Do you ask all Italians to condemn Mafia murder? That is racism at its worst!”
  • The fact that Chareidi weekly newsmagazines headline about the “Tensions and Turmoil in the Streets of Beit Shemesh”, and how “A Sleepy City Boils Over” when anyone living there wonders what planet these people are inhabiting, speaks volumes about the sensationalism of the media. An otherwise intelligent Chareidi commentator actually wrote in his blog that there is an existential threat to Chareidi Jewry in Israel today”. That just about defines He also calls for people to ‘protest the violence in Beit Shemesh’. I have basically decided that these people are inhabiting some sort of parallel universe where there is a Beit Shemesh which is filled with violence. I inhabit a Beit Shemesh where there is no violence, which is actually quite boring, and where there hasn’t been any violence except for by a few kooks a few months ago. Maybe this coming Chol HaMo’ed I’ll visit that other Beit Shemesh! Sounds exciting!
  • I do believe that at its worst, there is another sad dynamic at work. The Chovohs HaLevavohs writes in Shaar Yichud Hamaaseh that one of the most common urges of men (or women) is that others should like them and approve of them. And he writes how a person should work at losing that urge, and attempt to be guided only by right and wrong (i.e. HaShem’s approval). It is quite possibly a sign of low self-esteem, of self-doubt, if I feel an urge to “explain” that I do not approve of deviant behavior. Perhaps, because I want to be liked, admired, approved of, I feel I must “explain” that I, my group, are the good.  And I make the mistake of thinking that now I am approved of. (This explains a lot of Medinas Yisrael’s national stances and a lot of our personal ones.) If we would beגאה in being chareidi, in total comfort with it, we would feel no thrill in explaining that Chareidim are normal people.  ודו”ק כי עמוק הוא זה
  • There is absolutely no imposition of Mehadrin standards onto the general public. As explained, the Mehadrin lines are Egged’s invention, to keep the ultra-Chareidi business, to prevent the opening of private bus lines. There are always alternative lines! And 95% of the people traveling even on these lines understand that at the end of the day, it is public transportation, and there is nothing to do if someone insists on violating the Mehadrin understanding. And yes, there will always be the 5% who are “kana’im”. So deal with it as it should be dealt with, reflective of what it is—5% kana’im. (Throw them off the bus, I say.) (I will not even address the absurdity that chareidi Jews are guilty of hadarat nashim).

 

III – The Solution

 

(First of all, lose the urge, the need, to be loved. Work on it. Learn Sha’ar Yichud Hamaaseh! As for chillul HaShem, see Part IV).

 

When asked to comment, the answer should be “You are only asking me what I think because you have, or want to promote, a premise about Chareidim. I reject the very premise, and thus I have nothing to say. I will treat your request for comment as any proud Jew would treat a request to comment about Bernard Madoff, as any proud Italian would treat a request to comment about a Mafia murder. The minute I respond to your request, I’ve bought into your narrative, and have allowed myself to be suckerpunched!  Sorry, I am not playing the game! Come to live in RBSA or RBSB for 3 days, and you will see that you are under a terribly wrong misconception, due to sensationalist reporting. I will not perpetuate that by treating it as anything more than what it is — a few kooks, who, instead of visiting Iran to deny the Holocaust, and to plan the dissolution of the State of Israel, have found something else to do. And whoever does not realize this is fooling himself, and therefore has a responsibility to clarify an obvious truth.”

 

I would add — “Please arrest any  perpetrators committing a crime, make a 200-meter, 300, whatever it takes, “order-of-protection”, do whatever you, the police, know what and how to do to maintain the public order and civility (and they know how to do plenty when they want to).”

 

(As an example of what one should not do, very well-meaning people went to a ‘non-violence rally’ which turned out to be an anti-Torah rally led by the new Shinui party and funded by New Israel Fund.)

 

(By the way, when I was asked by people if they should go davka “as  chareidim”,  I said they should go davka not as Chareidim!)

 

IV – But…..

 

  • But what about the chillul HaShem? Can we just allow the masses to think the worst of us? Don’t we need hasbara? If you won’t explain, who will?

 

Sadly, this is a problem, a big one. But step one is to realize that it is not a problem we have created, and so the onus of a solution is not necessarily our responsibility (though it certainly behooves us to implement a solution were we to have one). Let me give a moshol: When a person is forced to go to secular court to pursue his monetary claims because the defendant refuses to go to a Bais Din — all the horrible terrible things it says in Shulchan Aruch about going to secular court, including the great chillul HaShem caused, is still true. Why then does one usually receive permission from the Bais Din to pursue such a course of action in such a case? The answer is that then, the onus of the chillul HaShem caused is not on the person who is going to the courts, though it seemingly should   It is on the real cause of the chillul HaShem, on the person who refused to go to a Bais Din! In our case, the onus is on the actions of the kooks (thugs) and also, and perhaps more so , on those who publicized it out of proportion to its significance, and made it into a Chareidi issue! Not on the victims of the suckerpunch!

Now, certainly, if there is something I can do to undermine and to uproot a chillul HaShem, I should do it. That is elementary. But when my opinion has very little chance of reaching the people who think the worst of us (thanks to the media and its cohorts); when it will appear in a venue which is read by like-minded people, making it basically ‘preaching to the choir’ (whoops, wrong religion!); when it will be drowned out in a sea of  competing noise; when there is a cacophony of babble out there — and most of all, when there is at least the very real risk of inviting the consequences of which I have spoken, it would be wise to heed the words of Chazal in Berachos 63A: “If you are living in a generation where the words of Torah ( i.e. words of truth) are not cherished, gather them in (as opposed to spreading them out)” … and Rashi explains: “And do not allow the words of Torah (i.e. of truth) to be left out there, to be humiliated.” ודו”ק

If a Jew kills someone, and some  non-Jews in North Carolina or Kentucky choose to believe that this act is representative of all Jews — and the media is in a full-court press perpetuating that myth, and no less than the heads of Murder Inc. and the Mafia [Talk to the wives of some of those people  lecturing religious Jewry, ודי לחכימא ברמיזא] giving very impassioned speeches about the sordidness of Judaism — I submit to you that it is the height of foolishness to try to explain otherwise.

It is a bit of American naiveté to think “If we only explain to them the beauty of Torah….” Yeah, and if we only get out of Lebanon, if we only get out of Gaza, if we only give up all territories, then there will be peace. “Been there, done that.

The minute I respond to a request to address the issue, so that the ‘public’ can hear what a “moderate chareidi Rabbi” holds, I’ve bought into your narrative, and have allowed myself to be suckerpunched! Sorry, I am not playing the game.

In closing, we would all do well to emulate Howard Roark, hero of THE FOUNTAINHEAD:

 

“Mr. Roark, we’re alone here. Why don’t you tell me what you think of me? In any words you wish. No one will hear us.”

“But I don’t think of you.”

— Ellsworth Toohey and Howard Roark, The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand

THE END

From BTYA, here. (Updated 9/12/2012)

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Above & Beyond “Normal”: Life in Eretz Yisroel

Haaretz Hatovah

Real Life Stories and Experiences of Yidden Settling in Eretz Yisroel

Our family made “aliyah” from the U.S. to Ramat Beit Shemesh about six years ago. I was born in Highland Park, NJ but  I grew up in Baltimore, whereas my wife originates from Maryland.

Moving to Eretz Hakodesh has given us a tremendous opportunity, both physically and spiritually. We were making regular yearly visits to Israel for a while, as my wife’s mother is buried here. On one such occasion, we decided to jump in and just stay here for good!

One of the main reasons we took “the plunge” to move was due to the clear rising signs of anti-Semitism in America and the world at large. There is much worry about what the future will bring. It is clearly a hundred percent the yad Hashem Who controls every aspect of the political scene and we hope and daven that it will continue to be positive for Eretz Yisroel.

We chose to move to Beit Shemesh, in particular, as we have family (my wife’s brother) living locally in the area. The English-speaking community of Beit Shemesh also eased the transition, by providing an awesome support system, whereby we felt that we were embraced as one big, loving family. The chessed is really incredible; after a baby, the whole community joins in to send Shabbos meals.

Our children attend the dati mamlachti school system here, as the charedi school last-minute had no room. However, we are extremely happy and satisfied with every aspect of their education, with children at every stage from gan age right through until yeshivah. From the start, they have been surrounded by great friends, in a safe and secure environment, and have totally blossomed. One of my sons has chosen to attend yeshivah up in North, and has adapted nicely to the lifestyle and is thriving on his experiences, which he wouldn’t otherwise have had.

I work remotely for someone abroad and assist my wife with her computer repair business. I also have been involved in various other business opportunities.

Generally, people here are more than happy to advise you when setting up a business. Lots of useful pointers are available through different WhatsApp and Facebook groups. Many Israelis and chutznikim are more than delighted to be of assistance, especially those chutznikim that have navigated through this themselves. I, myself, have learnt several valuable lessons along the way that I’d like to share.

When moving here, it is crucial to do so because you really want to be here; you can make a nice living but as a foreigner, it’s gonna be hard to make “big bucks.” Also, it is naïve to think that you will “change your whole life” when you move here; you must be aware that your natural way of life will not change. If you do open a business, be particular with taxes and the laws of mas hachnasa, they play by the rules over here. Likewise, it is equally important to learn exactly what the banking norms are and the way things operate in Eretz Hakodesh. Lastly, although finances obviously prove challenging at times, every week we are blessed that, somehow, we have what we need. Things do not naturally add up here; everything is directed above nature in this holy place. Somehow things come together, totally guided by a Higher Power.

Being a Hatzalah volunteer here has also been a very inspiring experience. From seeing the way that Yom Kippur was treated with such universal respect when on duty at that time, and how all the roads are totally empty. Working for Hatzalah has affected both my character and my identity as I am known sometimes, as the computer man and at others, as the Hatzalah man. Actually, on one occasion, I was called by somebody to fix their computer and ended up treating a member of the immediate family for a medical emergency at the same time.

There are many other extremely special and unique aspects that I love about living in Eretz Yisroel. This includes being in a country where the atmosphere is exclusively Jewish and where its calendar totally revolves around the Jewish chaggim. The yomim tovim evoke an exclusive community feeling that is felt across the whole land. For instance, many shops are closed at these times and chol hamoed is celebrated in the spirit of that specific chag. Multiple simchas beis hasho’eivos take place on every night of Succos. The joy of Purim lasts the whole week long and more. The seasons of the Holy Land are totally in synch with its festivals, as is seen in the way the apple-picking season coincides with Rosh Hashanah, and how the olive season comes right before Chanukah, when we use olive oil.

We also have the unparalleled zechus of being able to visit sites that are unique to Eretz Yisroel, like Chevron and Yerushalayim, as we live in close enough vicinity to be able to do so!

Hashem’s loving Presence is felt more openly here in the Holy Land. We saw this clearly for ourselves when one of our children accidentally pulled a bookcase onto herself. It could have been serious, but amazingly there was a table in the way that prevented more severe damage. This is just one of many daily examples of divine hashgacha pratis at work here. The most absolutely zaniest things happen to show that we are rewarded for making Eretz Hakodesh our Homeland!

D. C. Ramat Beit Shemesh

This article is part of our Haaretz Hatovah series featuring Yidden living in, settling, and building up Eretz Yisroel. For more info please contact info@naavakodesh.org or visit naavakodesh.org/haaretz-hatovah

From Naava Kodesh, here.